here about the butterfly effect when it comes to dating and the early days of marriage. We all know that marriage (or any long-term relationship) takes work, especially when solving a major conflict or problem. But what about all the other times in your marriage; the time long after the newness has faded and when no major problem is taking center stage? What do you do with this time?
Unfortunately, many people go into autopilot and merely exist. During this time, however, it is critical to consciously "maintain" what you have and solidify your relationship's foundation. During your marriage maintenance, it is key to either keep the positive momentum going or create it, depending on where you are at that give time, and make your relationship worth it. I italicize this because when you leave the house, it is important to know the value of what you have at home, and you want your spouse to do the same. Temptation is everywhere, and it is not going away. Temptation is not limited to infidelity either. It includes anything that strains your marriage, for example, a busy career. Properly maintaining your marriage is the best defense against the outside world that leads to so many bad marriage statistics (especially here in California).
What, if anything, do you do to properly maintain your marriage/relationship?