Thursday, August 26, 2010

The Want



"It's not having what you want. It's wanting what you've got." Sheryl Crow

I title this post, "the want" because lately I want so many things. I am not sure if the want is more predominate now or if I am just paying more attention because my closet is busting at the seams. Everywhere I go, I see advertisements telling me what phone to carry, what purse to buy, what shampoo to use. I am even being told what to clothes to sweat in. There are expensive creams promising to make me younger and sneakers swearing they make my legs toner. The common thread is that these all are things that I already own, yet I feel constantly compelled to upgrade.

I categorize these temptations as my want. How can I have a perfectly great pair (or 10) of shoes, yet I am salivating over Christian Louboutins and feel the desperate need to buy booties? How is it that I own six amazing winter coats, yet I am pining over the latest green military jackets? We all know that to want is different than to need, and I am not at all suggesting we live in the clothes until they become so tattered they are publicly inappropriate. I do enjoy the occasional indulgence, especially when it comes to fashion. But why must I feel compelled to make fifty purchases at the start of every season?

When is enough really enough?
And . . . is the answer never?

36 comments:

  1. It's great to put things in perspective and realize that you shouldn't buy the latest and the greatest to make you happy. Five minutes after buying a new gadget, you learn that it is dated.

    HOWEVER, I also think it is important to treat yourself. Life is too short to CONSTANTLY be saving for a rainy day. "You can't enjoy the sunshine if your vision is always being blocked by an umbrella."

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  2. Thanks......long time fan. First time poster.

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  3. Such an interesting thing to think about! I love how you wrote everything out and I'm not sure enough will every be enough...but I suppose that depends on the person and what they consider enough! :)

    Liesl :)

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  4. Marcie!

    Great minds DO think alike! And you're dead on...it's the change in season that's making me want, want, want. I agree with anonymous, somethings should be splurged on!

    Just gave L&L an award over on my blog...congrats and thanks for the great reads!

    http://pursuitofllt.blogspot.com/2010/08/sharing-blog-love.html

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  5. Oh, you are so right, my dear. I do try to remember that while it's always fun drooling over these pretty things, I hardly need them. It's tough, though -- especially with the Loubs!
    xo Josie
    http://winksmilestyle.blogspot.com

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  6. Hi Marcie.:D

    I think it's all a matter of prioritizing and self control. I know it is easier said than done but it's all about control and priorities.:D

    Thanks for visiting my blog, I've been sick and I apologize if I haven't been an active follower of lemons and laundry. It's been so hot and hopefully with this migraine, I'll be able to make sense right now.

    Have a happy Thursday, Marcie!:D

    ***** Marie *****
    allthingsmarie.com

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  7. Btw, thanks for the nice comment about my new layout.:D

    I finally found the colors and pattern that I love for the template. I wanted my blog to look regal, dramatic, and sleek. Thanks again!:D

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  8. I find myself in this position all the time. I feel like I have a never ending "want" list. I sort of have this sickness though, where sometimes I will buy my "want", take it home and ponder it, and if after a few days I am still racked with guilt over the purchase, then I'm not meant to have it and I take it back. If I am content with the purchase, then I keep it :) Sounds crazy and it is time consuming, but it works for me!

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  9. Important to think about but hard to keep in perspective sometimes (most of the time?).

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  10. Very profound! we live in such a commercial world where we must have the newest, biggest, most beautiful things. I can say that living overseas (in a third world country)has been life changing for me. I used to have a walk-in closet with tags still on the clothes. Now I have the bare minimal. It was difficult though to pass by windows and say aww I could have these shoes, (but eeeeek they are so expensive!) but it's the shoes or a month of rent or food on the table.

    so U are coming to Croatia? You will Love it!

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  11. Hey Marcie Girl! Can't go wrong with some Sherly Crow! I think if you know you are wanting too much your half way there! Balance!
    I need to take my own advice, he he!
    Smoochies
    gi gi

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  12. Hi Marcie - you are so right. I went off to Portugal full of summer ideas and summer dresses. Now I am home I want Autumnal things, forget those summer dresses! It's crazy! Somehow I have mustered up the want within a day or two when it never existed! The want governs my headspace! Let me know when you work it all out, I'd be delighted to hear the answer! Lou x

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  13. This 'want' thing drives me nuts. Living on a student budget after ten years of having a full-time wage is a fabulous reality check! :)

    Bloody iPhones are going to be the death of me (and my bank balance). I don't need one, I don't really use the phone I've got (I leave it on silent and hidden under my pillows so I can pretend I don't hear it ringing!) but I'm desperate to get my hands on one! It's ridiculous. I don't even want to have a phone at all, so I'm resisting getting one. The Hipstamatic app that I see being used - or, the result of that app - is probably all I want it for anyway!

    Anyway, I agree with the first anonymous comment: you should be allowed to treat yourself every now and then!

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  14. I love this post! I so agree, it's so hard to get away from materialism, I do the same thing (the watch, duh, I HAD to have it! ;) The crazy thing is, new things do make me feel better, however briefly, lol! I heard another quote, the greatest freedom in life is wanting to do the right thing! XX!

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  15. I have been feeling that way for the past couple of days too. I do have a lot of really good stuff but I keep wanting to upgrade I keep wanting and wanting and wanting.

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  16. Hi Marcie - Well said. This post is spot on with how I often feel. Despite having more than I can properly store, I constantly am searching for the next "life changing" product. It's quite ridiculous. When I did my one-month no shopping cleanse, it really put things in perspective. I also find it helps to go through what you already own to re-discover things you may have forgotten about, and get rid of the junk. It's really rather therapeutic :)

    Thanks for always posting such great thoughts!

    Shopping Moratorium here:
    http://22lovelyb.blogspot.com/2010/05/june-challenge-shopping-moratorium.html

    and here:
    http://22lovelyb.blogspot.com/2010/07/challenge-complete.html

    xo,
    LB

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  17. I started to feel like that too. I try so hard to make the difference between want and need...Its such a commercial world nowadays and we are so influenced by ads...shop windows...and fashion trends....Its important to keep the balance and always remember that a new pair of shoes is great but make sure that we buy it for the right reasons....Shopping is always a short-lived fix...right?

    Kisses my lovely...Thanks for that post...Its great to think about this!

    Hugs and see you soon

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  18. Absolutely true. It's sad how the media does that to us!!!!

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  19. You hit it right on the head! I feel exactly the same way and I've been bothered by it lately. Especially this summer. Not quite sure why it's all coming up now. I get I just feel hyperstimulated with everything, commercials, magazines, gorgeous blogs, etc. All of these wonderful things are constantly in my face and I can't help but want, want, WANT!

    Luckily I've been fairly successful with being disciplined but I heaven't been able to suppress the want. So there I am left to fantasize about owning these things. I guess that's not the worst thing in the world...

    Hope you're having a great week, sweetie! And thanks so much for your sweet comment. Totally made me smile :) xoxo

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  20. when i was single i was always buying the latest and greatest to make me happy. now that i'm married i find pleasure in the simple things {due to a lack of funds!} and i treat myself every once and a while and i'm so much happier!!

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  21. Marcie, it's like you read my mind! I've been thinking about this for a few weeks now, wondering how I can put my "wants" into perspective and realize I have so much and should be happy with what I have! But that doesn't change the fact that I'm lusting over those Louboutins, a new Rebecca Minkoff bag, and a camel color trench coat. I know "things" can't make us happy, but it sure does brighten our mood, right? So I'm trying to keep a balance and appreciate what I have with the occasional splurge to treat myself. Awesome post!

    xo
    Valerie

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  22. Thanks for commenting on my "Sephora and Snooki" post! I really appreciate you taking the time to check out my blog.

    I really like this post - and I agree with Anonymous.

    http://lady-gabby.blogspot.com/

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  23. I agree. I'm always wanting. And wanting more. It's a good thing I have my husband (who gets the credit card bills) to remind me that I have a lot already and I should be happy with that, otherwise I will NEVER be happy!

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  24. Loving the green military jackets.. American eagle has a cute one and I saw one at TJmaxx a few nights ago... too bad I had already spent too much!

    xx
    Jessie
    http://87life.blogspot.com

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  25. Good thoughts Marcie... I feel like everytime I have that same urge my mother's voice pops into my head whispering, "Is this a want-want or a need-need?" That usually helps me out a bit!
    Good to think about none the less!

    xo anna

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  26. Agreed...! If it's in your budget though, get it, if not, save up for it. That's really what I've been doing and the guilt that I used to feel is gone! It feels great to be in control of one's finances!!

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  27. I can tell you how to get THE WANT to tone down a lot....it will NEVER go away....BUT, now don't go tellin' everyone, BUT....if you become almost completely BROKE....that strong urge of THE WANT it fades A LOT!!!!! Bahhahahahaha....just sharing what I have personally learned. Education is key.

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  28. I guess its just human nature :) And all the ad companies know it!

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  29. i have been feeling the SAME way lately. my checking account has taken a seavere beating. In the first week of august i challenged myself to not buy anything else for the rest of the month.... i broke down a few days ago when while at lunch w/ 2 of my girlfriends they suggested stopping at f21. f21 is my drug. lol at least their prices are cheap. but cheap still adds up!

    wow thats a long comment :)

    <3 Gina

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  30. p.s i love those lyrics, i saw her in concert two years ago. She seriously rocks.

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  31. Great thought provoking post! I think there is very few, if any, that can never want something. I guess the answer is never. And the media does a real great job promoting everything to try to get us to upgrade like you said. Balance is key, like Gi Gi said!

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  32. you learn your lesson when you have a limited budget you need to live and eating becomes more important that the shoes on display... that is the moment when you realize you don't need that much stuff but all you need is imagination to use what you want and self confidence to feel good in it!

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  33. Marcie-nice post and honestly I think everyone perceives wants and needs so differently. I am a pretty disciplined person and won't buy tons of stuff just b/c they are on sale or because I think I need it or even b/c it's trendy. I am big on quality vs quantity esp when it comes to shoes and handbags. I think finding a balance is key and I am always grateful and appreciative for all that I have as I am sure you are. Have a great weekend!
    naina

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  34. i deeefinitely hear you on this - i'm constantly talking myself away from things i think..

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